{"id":20855,"date":"2025-03-08T16:27:40","date_gmt":"2025-03-08T12:27:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/?p=20855"},"modified":"2025-03-08T16:27:40","modified_gmt":"2025-03-08T12:27:40","slug":"p%c9%99rvan%c9%99-bayramqizi-birgunluk-saxtakarlar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/?p=20855","title":{"rendered":"\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 P\u0259rvan\u0259 Bayramq\u0131z\u0131 &#8211; Birg\u00fcnl\u00fck saxtakarlar"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/kultur.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/kultur.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-20853\" src=\"https:\/\/kultur.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/03\/kultur-217x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"217\" height=\"300\" \/><\/a>\u00d6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcnk\u00fcl\u0259r bel\u0259 deyirl\u0259r: \u201c\u018fr arvad saxlamaqda \u00fc\u00e7 \u015feyd\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc saxla\u00admal\u0131d\u0131r:<\/p>\n<p>Birinci \u2013 arvad\u0131n\u0131n m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259tind\u0259n \u00f6ls\u0259, onun e\u015fqind\u0259n d\u0259li-divan\u0259 olsa, sevgi\u00adsind\u0259n a\u011fl\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7a\u015fd\u0131rsa, el\u0259 etm\u0259lidir ki, arvad\u0131n x\u0259b\u0259ri olmas\u0131n, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc saxlaya bil\u00adm\u0259s\u0259, e\u015fq \u0259lac\u0131 haqq\u0131nda deyil\u0259nl\u0259r\u0259 \u0259m\u0259l etm\u0259lidir. H\u0259r halda e\u015fqini gizl\u0259tm\u0259lidir, \u0259ks t\u0259qdird\u0259 bundan \u00e7ox f\u0259sadlar t\u00f6r\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130kinci \u2013 \u00fcmumi i\u015fl\u0259rd\u0259 arvadla m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259\u015fm\u0259m\u0259li, \u00f6z sirrini ona verm\u0259m\u0259li, mal\u0131n\u0131n, mayas\u0131n\u0131n bir qismini ondan gizli saxlamal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>P.S. (\u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fcn\u00fc k\u00f6\u00e7\u00fcrm\u0259y\u0259 \u0259rinir\u0259m).<\/p>\n<p>N\u0259sr\u0259ddin Tusi. \u201c\u018fxlaqi-Nasiri\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Tusinin \u201c\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fc\u201d il\u0259 yeti\u015f\u0259n n\u0259slin qad\u0131nla r\u0259ftar\u0131n\u0131 bir \u00e7ox Az\u0259rbaycan ail\u0259l\u0259\u00adrind\u0259, ictimai yerl\u0259rd\u0259 ham\u0131m\u0131z g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck. \u00d6m\u00fcr yolda\u015f\u0131ndan sevgisini gizl\u0259d\u0259n ki\u015fi ail\u0259sini nec\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt ed\u0259 bil\u0259r? O ail\u0259d\u0259 istilik olarm\u0131? Bu c\u00fcr ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 u\u015faqlar f\u0259\u00adr\u0259hsiz b\u00f6y\u00fcm\u0259zl\u0259rmi? H\u0259min \u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fcn t\u0259siridir ki, m\u00fcasir d\u00fcnyan\u0131n t\u0259l\u0259bin\u0259 k\u00f6\u00adn\u00fcls\u00fcz tabe olanlar m\u0259clisd\u0259: \u201cQad\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n tac\u0131d\u0131r\u201d, \u2013 deyib gedirl\u0259r arvad\u00adlar\u0131n\u0131 \u201ct\u0259pikl\u0259m\u0259y\u0259\u201d. Birg\u00fcnl\u00fck saxtakarlar il boyu s\u0259mimi olurlar.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130l boyu t\u0259hqir olunanlarsa bir g\u00fcn\u00fcn t\u0259briki \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ya\u015fay\u0131rlar v\u0259&#8230; h\u0259r \u015feyi o t\u0259brik\u0259 ba\u011f\u0131\u015flay\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n<p>Qad\u0131n buna al\u0131\u015f\u0131b. El\u0259 bilir ki, ki\u015fi bu c\u00fcr d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259kd\u0259 haql\u0131d\u0131r. Amma h\u0259rd\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn x\u0259b\u0259ri olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 heysiyy\u0259t hissi \u00fcsyan ed\u0259nd\u0259 \u0259rin\u0259 x\u0259lv\u0259tc\u0259 qar\u011famaqla \u00fcr\u0259yini bo\u015fald\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Az\u0259rbaycan qad\u0131n\u0131n\u0131 xo\u015fb\u0259xt etm\u0259y\u0259 n\u0259 var? H\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 q\u0131\u015fq\u0131ra-q\u0131\u015fq\u0131ra t\u0259hqir ed\u0259n \u0259ri kobud s\u00f6zl\u0259ri birc\u0259 d\u0259f\u0259 s\u0259sinin tonunu a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 sal\u0131b des\u0259, qad\u0131n sevin\u0259c\u0259k: \u201cKi\u015fi yax\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011fa do\u011fru d\u0259yi\u015fib\u201d, \u2013 deyib m\u0259mnun olacaq.<\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u018fd\u0259bli ki\u015fi qad\u0131nlardan dan\u0131\u015fmaz, onlar bar\u0259d\u0259 sual verm\u0259z v\u0259 onlara salam da yollamaz. Onlar ki\u015finin k\u00f6lg\u0259sidir, h\u0259tta \u00e7ox vaxt onlar bel\u0259 k\u00f6lg\u0259d\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259rini yax\u015f\u0131 hiss edirl\u0259r. Bu da yax\u015f\u0131 v\u0259 a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 bir i\u015fdir. Bizd\u0259 bir z\u0259rbi-m\u0259s\u0259l var: \u201cQad\u0131n\u0131n a\u011fl\u0131 toyuq t\u00fck\u00fc q\u0259d\u0259rdir\u201d. A\u011fl\u0131 olmayan m\u0259xluqlara n\u0259zar\u0259t etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. Yoxsa h\u0259m \u00f6z ba\u015flar\u0131na, h\u0259m d\u0259 ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na b\u0259la g\u0259tir\u0259rl\u0259r. M\u0259nim fikrimc\u0259, bu, a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 qaydad\u0131r\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>Qurban S\u0259id. \u201c\u018fli v\u0259 Nino\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Bu da bel\u0259.<\/p>\n<p>\u00d6zg\u0259nin A.S.Makarenkosu is\u0259:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cTutaq ki, siz \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u0259 gerid\u0259qalm\u0131\u015f bir arvad se\u00e7ibsiniz. H\u0259r \u015feyd\u0259n \u0259vv\u0259l ay\u00add\u0131nla\u015fd\u0131raq, g\u00f6r\u0259k gerid\u0259qalm\u0131\u015f arvad n\u0259 dem\u0259kdir? Siz q\u0259zeti s\u00fcr\u0259tl\u0259 oxuyur\u00adsunuz, o is\u0259 sizd\u0259n yava\u015f oxuyur. Ona savad \u00f6yr\u0259din. Lakin i\u015f bunda deyildir. U\u015faqlar\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn sizin arvad\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n siz\u0259 nisb\u0259t\u0259n n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r inki\u015faf etmi\u015f ol\u00addu\u011fu o q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259 \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tli deyil. El\u0259 etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r ki, sizin arvad\u0131n\u0131z da, u\u015faq\u00adlar\u0131n\u0131z da h\u0259yatdan raz\u0131 olsun. Qoy o \u00f6z h\u0259yat\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn sevinsin. H\u0259rgah siz arvad\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u00f6z s\u0259viyy\u0259niz\u0259 qald\u0131r\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131zsa, el\u0259 qald\u0131r\u0131n ki, bu ona z\u00f6vq versin, lakin \u201cm\u0259nim s\u0259viyy\u0259m y\u00fcks\u0259kdir, qalx, m\u0259n\u0259 \u00e7at\u201d, \u2013 dey\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcns\u0259niz, he\u00e7 bir t\u0259rbiy\u0259 i\u015fi ola bilm\u0259z. Qoy o, \u015fadl\u0131qla y\u00fcks\u0259lsin, qoy bu ona h\u0259zz versin, h\u0259rgah siz bunu sevincl\u0259 \u0259ld\u0259 ed\u0259 bilmirsinizs\u0259, onu qald\u0131rmay\u0131n, ancaq qoy o, dol\u011fun insan h\u0259yat\u0131 s\u00fcrs\u00fcn. Qoy y\u00fcks\u0259kd\u0259 duran \u015f\u0259xs \u00f6z y\u00fcks\u0259kliyi il\u0259 \u00e7ox g\u00fcv\u0259nm\u0259m\u0259k v\u0259 bunu add\u0131mba\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6z\u0259 soxmamaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 m\u0259tan\u0259t taps\u0131n. Qoy o b\u00fct\u00fcn davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 il\u0259 arvad\u0131n\u0131 sevindirsin, o zaman arvad bu sevinc i\u00e7ind\u0259 boy atacaq, inki\u015faf ed\u0259c\u0259kdir. M\u0259nim \u201cT\u0259rbiy\u0259nin sirri\u201d adl\u0131 bir novellam var. Sirr ondan ibar\u0259tdir ki, ki\u015fi h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 arva\u00add\u0131na s\u0259ad\u0259t verm\u0259k ist\u0259yir v\u0259 ona g\u00f6r\u0259 onlar\u0131n \u00f6vladlar\u0131 \u00e7ox g\u00f6z\u0259l u\u015faq olurlar. \u018fr arvad\u0131na, arvad is\u0259 \u0259rin\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik arzulad\u0131\u011f\u0131 h\u0259r yerd\u0259 u\u015faqlar yax\u015f\u0131 olurlar. \u018fl\u00adb\u0259tt\u0259, burada s\u00f6hb\u0259t iki a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 adam haqq\u0131nda gedir. Zehnin m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n bir h\u0259ddi var ki, valideynl\u0259r bu s\u0259viyy\u0259d\u0259n a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259m\u0259lidirl\u0259r, h\u0259r hans\u0131 bir xo\u015fb\u0259xt, lakin s\u0259feh adam yax\u015f\u0131 u\u015faq t\u0259rbiy\u0259 ed\u0259 bilm\u0259z. M\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n zehni s\u0259viyy\u0259 \u2013 a\u011f\u0131l, idrak, f\u0259all\u0131q, diqq\u0259t olmal\u0131d\u0131r\u201d, \u2013 deyir.<\/p>\n<p>\u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fcz f\u0259rql\u0259ndirin.<\/p>\n<p>\u018fdal\u0259t hissi vacib oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u00fctl\u0259q qeyd etm\u0259liy\u0259m: d\u00f6z\u00fclm\u0259z insanlar\u0131n cinsi olmur.<\/p>\n<p>B\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00fcnahlar\u0131 t\u0259kc\u0259 ki\u015finin, yaxud da qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcn\u0259 atmaq do\u011fru yana\u015fma deyil. T\u00fcndm\u0259caz ki\u015fi d\u0259 var, qad\u0131n da. M\u0259nfi x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259ti bir cins\u0259 aid etm\u0259k ob\u00adyektivlikd\u0259n uzaqd\u0131r. Amma \u00e7oxlu\u011fu ki\u015finin d\u00f6z\u00fclm\u0259zliyi t\u0259\u015fkil edir. Deying\u0259nlik qad\u0131nlara m\u0259xsus x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259t kimi q\u0259bul edils\u0259 d\u0259, s\u0259h\u0259rd\u0259n ax\u015famacan h\u0259r i\u015f\u0259 qar\u0131\u00ad\u015fan, h\u0259r \u015feyin \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 naraz\u0131l\u0131q ed\u0259n, h\u0259r \u015feyi \u0259yri g\u00f6r\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259r d\u0259 az deyil. Evl\u0259\u00adnir, ata evind\u0259 \u0259zizl\u0259n\u0259n bir q\u0131z\u0131 \u00f6z evin\u0259 g\u0259tirir. \u018fzizl\u0259yirmi? Xeyr! Qeyd\u0259 qalma\u011f\u0131, qay\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ondan umur. X\u00f6r\u0259k bi\u015firm\u0259yi, paltar yuma\u011f\u0131, \u00f6z\u00fc il\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259r valideynl\u0259\u00adrinin d\u0259 qullu\u011funda durma\u011f\u0131 t\u0259l\u0259b edir. \u201cU\u015faqlar\u0131 da b\u00f6y\u00fct, \u00fcst\u0259lik n\u0259sil-n\u0259cab\u0259\u00adtimin naz\u0131 il\u0259 d\u0259 oyna\u201d, \u2013 deyir. \u201cH\u00fcn\u0259rin var, kim\u0259s\u0259 qa\u015f-qabaq el\u0259\u201d. Amma qay\u0131n\u00adata da, qay\u0131nana da, \u0259r d\u0259 ona ac\u0131qlana bil\u0259r. H\u0259l\u0259 u\u015faqlara pis \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 s\u0259rb\u0259stlik verib anaya qar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131xaran atalar da var. Qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6m\u00fcr yolu buradan b\u0259llidir.<\/p>\n<p>Fiziki i\u015fl\u0259rin a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan, f\u0259r\u0259hsiz ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131ndan, ist\u0259kl\u0259rinin q\u0259lbind\u0259 \u00f6lm\u0259\u00adsind\u0259n getdikc\u0259 t\u0259rav\u0259ti, \u015fuxlu\u011fu, \u015f\u0259nliyi it\u0259n qad\u0131nda oynaq-\u0259z\u0259l\u0259 x\u0259st\u0259likl\u0259ri ba\u015f\u00adlay\u0131b osteoxondroz \u0259ld\u0259n salanda ki\u015fi ekranda seyr etdiyi balerinalar\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259rib de\u00adyir:<\/p>\n<p>\u2013 O da s\u0259nin kimi arvadd\u0131r, g\u00f6r nec\u0259 \u00e7evikdir?!<\/p>\n<p>Qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fck z\u0259hm\u0259ti bir k\u0259lm\u0259 il\u0259 he\u00e7\u0259 \u00e7evrilir. \u0130l boyu da\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131 m\u0259n\u0259vi-fiziki y\u00fck he\u00e7 k\u0259sin g\u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u00fcr. Qar\u0131\u015fqat\u0259k torpaqda can qoyan qad\u0131n\u0131 yal\u00adn\u0131z \u00f6z\u00fc \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ya\u015fayan t\u0259minatl\u0131 qad\u0131nlarla m\u00fcqayis\u0259 etm\u0259kl\u0259 q\u0259dirbilm\u0259zliyini t\u0259s\u00addiq edir.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130ndi bir dilli-dilav\u0259r qad\u0131n qaba\u011fa \u00e7\u0131x\u0131b dey\u0259c\u0259k: \u201cAslan\u0131n erk\u0259yi, di\u015fisi olmaz\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>Birg\u00fcnl\u00fck bayramla ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yozma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n. Mart\u0131n t\u0259kc\u0259 s\u0259kkizi yox, doqquzu da, onu da, bel\u0259 lap ham\u0131s\u0131 bizimdir.<\/p>\n<p>Qad\u0131nlar\u0131 bu g\u00fcn \u2013 m\u00fcv\u0259qq\u0259ti m\u0259mnunluq g\u00fcn\u00fc m\u00fcnasib\u0259til\u0259 t\u0259brik etmir\u0259m. Onlar\u0131n il boyu sevincli anlar ya\u015fad\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131, h\u0259yatlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcr\u0259kl\u0259ri ist\u0259diyi kimi oldu\u00ad\u011funu bilib t\u0259brik etm\u0259yi arzulay\u0131ram. M\u0259tnd\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 aid he\u00e7 n\u0259 tapmayan b\u0259yl\u0259ri is\u0259 \u0259sl insan olduqlar\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn alq\u0131\u015flay\u0131ram.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p class=\"bawpvc-ajax-counter\" data-id=\"20855\">Yaz\u0131ya 47 d\u0259f\u0259 bax\u0131l\u0131b<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00d6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcnk\u00fcl\u0259r bel\u0259 deyirl\u0259r: \u201c\u018fr arvad saxlamaqda \u00fc\u00e7 \u015feyd\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc saxla\u00admal\u0131d\u0131r: Birinci \u2013 arvad\u0131n\u0131n m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259tind\u0259n \u00f6ls\u0259, onun e\u015fqind\u0259n d\u0259li-divan\u0259 olsa, sevgi\u00adsind\u0259n a\u011fl\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7a\u015fd\u0131rsa, el\u0259 etm\u0259lidir ki, arvad\u0131n x\u0259b\u0259ri olmas\u0131n, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc saxlaya bil\u00adm\u0259s\u0259, e\u015fq \u0259lac\u0131 haqq\u0131nda deyil\u0259nl\u0259r\u0259 \u0259m\u0259l etm\u0259lidir. H\u0259r halda e\u015fqini gizl\u0259tm\u0259lidir, \u0259ks t\u0259qdird\u0259 bundan \u00e7ox f\u0259sadlar t\u00f6r\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r. \u0130kinci \u2013 \u00fcmumi i\u015fl\u0259rd\u0259 arvadla m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259\u015fm\u0259m\u0259li, \u00f6z [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[6,4],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20855"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=20855"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20855\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":20857,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20855\/revisions\/20857"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=20855"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=20855"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=20855"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}