{"id":2467,"date":"2014-03-01T16:10:47","date_gmt":"2014-03-01T12:10:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kultur.az\/?p=2467"},"modified":"2020-06-28T02:39:11","modified_gmt":"2020-06-27T21:39:11","slug":"irad%c9%99-aytel-kisil%c9%99r-t%c9%99nha-qadinlari-sevirl%c9%99r","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/?p=2467","title":{"rendered":"\u0130rad\u0259 Aytel – Ki\u015fil\u0259r t\u0259nha qad\u0131nlar\u0131 sevirl\u0259r"},"content":{"rendered":"

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T\u0259nha qad\u0131n olmaq \u00e7ox \u00e7\u0259tindir. Daha \u00e7\u0259tini is\u0259 ictimai insan v\u0259 t\u0259nha qad\u0131nd\u0131r. \u0259g\u0259r qad\u0131n bir az da g\u00f6z\u0259g\u0259limli, xo\u015fag\u0259l\u0259n, yaxud g\u00f6z\u0259ldirs\u0259, bu zaman \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259r qat-qat art\u0131r.
\nAil\u0259d\u0259n ba\u015flay\u0131ram: ail\u0259d\u0259 iki bac\u0131 var, biri daha g\u00f6z\u0259g\u0259limli, o birisi f\u0259rqli. O zaman g\u00f6z\u0259g\u0259limli s\u00f6zl\u00fc-s\u00f6hb\u0259tli olur. O biri is\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131, t\u0259rbiy\u0259li sayacaq, ana g\u00f6z\u0259g\u0259limli q\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 daha \u00e7ox s\u0131xma-bo\u011fmaya salacaq v\u0259 g\u00f6z\u0259g\u0259limli q\u0131z ta ki\u00e7ik ya\u015flar\u0131nda \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00fcnahkar hesab ed\u0259c\u0259k v\u0259 onda kompleksl\u0259r yaranacaq. Sonra m\u0259kt\u0259b vaxt\u0131 g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k. M\u0259kt\u0259bd\u0259 d\u0259 eyni \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259rl\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131la\u015facaq, \u0259kscinsin daha \u00e7ox diqq\u0259tind\u0259n, q\u0131zlar\u0131n da qeyb\u0259tind\u0259n azad olmayacaq. El\u0259 qonum-qon\u015fular, \u0259trafdak\u0131lar da ondan dan\u0131\u015fmaqdan yorulmayacaq. Vay o g\u00fcn\u0259 ki, o g\u00f6z\u0259g\u0259limli q\u0131z \u0259r evind\u0259n geri d\u00f6ns\u00fcn v\u0259 t\u0259nha qad\u0131n adlans\u0131n. Bax, h\u0259r \u015fey bundan sonra ba\u015flay\u0131r. Ki\u015fil\u0259r bu qad\u0131ndan \u00e7ox onun t\u0259nhal\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 sev\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r. Ax\u0131 t\u00fclk\u00fcl\u0259r ov t\u0259nha olanda h\u00fccuma ke\u00e7ir.
\nKi\u015fil\u0259r qad\u0131na h\u00fccum etm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn daim pusquda duracaqlar.
\nEl\u0259 bir v\u0259zif\u0259li ki\u015fi tan\u0131m\u0131ram ki, onun yan\u0131na ged\u0259n, ona m\u00fcraci\u0259t ed\u0259n t\u0259nha, g\u00f6z\u0259l qad\u0131na \u201cSevgi\u201d etiraf\u0131 etm\u0259sin, o qad\u0131ndan salla\u015fmas\u0131n. Aya\u011f\u0131s\u00fcr\u00fc\u015fk\u0259n qad\u0131n ki\u015fini raz\u0131 sal\u0131b i\u015fini d\u00fcz\u0259ld\u0259c\u0259k, ba\u015fqa qad\u0131n is\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259rin\u0259 qatla\u015facaq.<\/p>\n

T\u0259nha qad\u0131nlar niy\u0259 kobud olurlar?<\/p>\n

Qad\u0131n h\u0259r pusquda durub ona qarmaq atan ki\u015fiy\u0259 t\u0259b\u0259ss\u00fcm ets\u0259, \u0259lb\u0259tt\u0259, kobud olmaz. \u018fn az\u0131ndan, restoranlarda, barlarda ki\u015fil\u0259rin qoynunda g\u00fcl\u00fc\u015f dolu h\u0259yat ya\u015fayar.
\nKobudluq t\u0259nha qad\u0131n\u0131n bir n\u00f6v ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259n silah\u0131d\u0131r. V\u0259 t\u0259nha qad\u0131n bu silahdan o q\u0259d\u0259r istifad\u0259 etm\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259cbur olur ki, n\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 yolagetm\u0259z birisin\u0259 \u00e7evrilir.
\nBundan ba\u015fqa, normal cins\u0259l h\u0259yat ya\u015famayan qad\u0131nlarda da h\u0259m psixoloji, h\u0259m d\u0259 fiziki probleml\u0259r ya\u015fan\u0131r. Onlar yox yerd\u0259n \u0259s\u0259bil\u0259\u015fir, \u0259kscins\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 qaba olur, \u0259trafdak\u0131lar\u0131 incidirl\u0259r. V\u0259 eyni zamanda, orqanizmind\u0259 m\u00fcxt\u0259lif x\u0259st\u0259likl\u0259r \u2013 ayba\u015f\u0131 poz\u011funlu\u011fu, b\u00f6yr\u0259k, qaraciy\u0259r \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmazl\u0131qlar\u0131 v\u0259 s. yaran\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Ki\u015fil\u0259r t\u0259nha qad\u0131nlar\u0131 niy\u0259 sevirl\u0259r<\/p>\n

H\u0259r halda bu sual\u0131n cavab\u0131n\u0131 ham\u0131 bilir: t\u0259nha qad\u0131na qarmaq atmaq, onu \u0259l\u0259 ke\u00e7irm\u0259k daha asand\u0131r, n\u0259inki ail\u0259li (ail\u0259lil\u0259r son zamanlar bu statistikada \u00f6n c\u0259rg\u0259d\u0259 dursalar da, yen\u0259 h\u0259r \u015fey t\u0259nhalar\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda \u00e7atlay\u0131r).<\/p>\n

V\u0259 son<\/p>\n

O, onun dostu idi. T\u0259nha qad\u0131n qabal\u0131\u011f\u0131, kobudlu\u011fu il\u0259 ona d\u0259y\u0259r verir, i\u00e7ind\u0259 bo\u011fdu\u011fu arzular\u0131n m\u0259hz onunla \u00e7i\u00e7\u0259k a\u00e7aca\u011f\u0131na \u00fcmid edirdi. O, t\u0259nha qad\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259nhal\u0131\u011f\u0131ma dayaq olacaqd\u0131. O, t\u0259nha qad\u0131n\u0131n gec\u0259l\u0259rini i\u015f\u0131qland\u0131racaq, soyuq yata\u011f\u0131m\u0131 isid\u0259c\u0259k, arzu etdiyi \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n atas\u0131 olacaqd\u0131. Lakin o bilmirdi ki, ictamai, ki\u015fil\u0259rin diqq\u0259tind\u0259 olan, qad\u0131nlar\u0131n q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b, t\u0259nha qad\u0131n\u0131 sevm\u0259k, onunla ail\u0259 qurmaq \u00e7ox \u00e7\u0259tin olacaq. O bilmirdi ki, o t\u0259nha qad\u0131n\u0131 ilk olaraq \u00f6z dostlar\u0131ndan \u2013 ki\u015fi dostlar\u0131ndan qorumal\u0131d\u0131r. O dostlardan ki, uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t h\u0259min t\u0259nha qad\u0131na x\u0259st\u0259 canavar qo\u00e7a boyland\u0131\u011f\u0131 kimi boylan\u0131b. V\u0259 o, h\u0259m d\u0259 onu bilmirdi ki, h\u0259min dostlar ondan \u00e7ox onun t\u0259nha qad\u0131n\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259nhal\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 sevir.<\/p>\n

Lakin o bir h\u0259qiq\u0259ti bilir, bilir ki, onlar\u0131 laz\u0131ms\u0131z mentalitet yox, l\u0259n\u0259tl\u0259nmi\u015f dostlar\u0131 ay\u0131rd\u0131…<\/p>\n

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Yaz\u0131ya 1954 d\u0259f\u0259 bax\u0131l\u0131b<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

T\u0259nha qad\u0131n olmaq \u00e7ox \u00e7\u0259tindir. Daha \u00e7\u0259tini is\u0259 ictimai insan v\u0259 t\u0259nha qad\u0131nd\u0131r. \u0259g\u0259r qad\u0131n bir az da g\u00f6z\u0259g\u0259limli, xo\u015fag\u0259l\u0259n, yaxud g\u00f6z\u0259ldirs\u0259, bu zaman \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259r qat-qat art\u0131r. Ail\u0259d\u0259n ba\u015flay\u0131ram: ail\u0259d\u0259 iki bac\u0131 var, biri daha g\u00f6z\u0259g\u0259limli, o birisi f\u0259rqli. O zaman g\u00f6z\u0259g\u0259limli s\u00f6zl\u00fc-s\u00f6hb\u0259tli olur. O biri is\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131, t\u0259rbiy\u0259li sayacaq, ana g\u00f6z\u0259g\u0259limli q\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 daha […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":410,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[6],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2467"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2467"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2467\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7895,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2467\/revisions\/7895"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/410"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2467"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2467"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2467"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}