{"id":8321,"date":"2015-02-23T12:47:36","date_gmt":"2015-02-23T08:47:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kultur.az\/?p=8321"},"modified":"2015-02-23T12:48:48","modified_gmt":"2015-02-23T08:48:48","slug":"hulya-sezgin-siz-once-kendinize-bakin-beyler","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/?p=8321","title":{"rendered":"H\u00fclya Sezgin -Siz \u00f6nce kendinize bak\u0131n beyler"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"hulya\"<\/a>On alt\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131ndayd\u0131m. Liseye gidiyordum. Okul y\u0131l sonu tatiline hen\u00fcz girmi\u015fti ki tatil sevincini ya\u015fayamadan bundan sonraki hayat\u0131m\u0131n seyrini de\u011fi\u015ftirecek ac\u0131 bir olayla y\u0131k\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131k. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc babam\u0131 kaybetmi\u015ftik. Dini gelenekler… helvas\u0131, lokmas\u0131… yedisi, k\u0131rk\u0131, elli ikisi derken y\u00fcre\u011fimizin yang\u0131n\u0131 biraz hafiflesin… biraz da akraba, e\u015f dost yak\u0131nlardan destek g\u00f6rmek i\u00e7in \u00c7ank\u0131r\u0131’ya gittik ana-k\u0131z. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ablam evli, erkek karde\u015fim ise kazand\u0131\u011f\u0131 yat\u0131l\u0131 okulu okumak \u00fczere \u0130stanbul’a gitmi\u015fti ve biz ana-k\u0131z ba\u015fba\u015fa kalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131k…<\/em><\/strong><\/span>

Day\u0131mlar\u0131n ve di\u011fer akraba \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011funun oldu\u011fu Eldivan kazas\u0131na gittik \u00f6nce… Her yer ba\u011fl\u0131k, bah\u00e7elik. Kiraz bah\u00e7eleri… tarlalar… \u015f\u0131r\u0131l \u015f\u0131r\u0131l akan sular… Bu g\u00fczellik ve yak\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n ilgisi az da olsa kederimizi da\u011f\u0131tm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Oradan Ankara’ya teyzemlere ge\u00e7tik. Bir iki g\u00fcn de orada kald\u0131ktan sonra \u0130zmir’e d\u00f6nmek \u00fczere otogara geldik. Teyzem ve eni\u015ftem bizi u\u011furlamaya geldiler. Hareket anonsu yap\u0131l\u0131nca otob\u00fcse bimek \u00fczere vedala\u015ft\u0131k. Sar\u0131ld\u0131k teyzemle… sonra eni\u015ftemin elini \u00f6p\u00fcp otob\u00fcs\u00fcn merdivenini \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131m ve geri d\u00f6nd\u00fcm el sallamak i\u00e7in… Teyzem ve eni\u015ftem de el sallad\u0131lar. Eni\u015ftem bir yandan el sallarken di\u011fer yandan da \u015f\u00f6yle s\u00f6yl\u00fcyordu.<\/span>
\u201cBak do\u011fru dur. Baban yoksa biz var\u0131z. Ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00f6n\u00fcm\u00fcze e\u011fecek bir \u015fey yaparsan bak vallaha da billaha da gelir seni \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcr\u00fcm!..\u201d<\/span>

O an i\u00e7imdeki depremlerle sars\u0131ld\u0131m… g\u00fczel duygular\u0131m yerle bir oldu. Ac\u0131m\u0131 bile unuttum birden. \u0130\u00e7im h\u0131n\u00e7la doldu ve teyzemin kocas\u0131ndan o an nefret ettim. Hen\u00fcz on alt\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131nda ac\u0131l\u0131 bir \u00e7ocu\u011fa denecek laf m\u0131yd\u0131 bu?\u00a0 Ne yani benim namusum ona m\u0131 emanetti? Ben sahip \u00e7\u0131kam\u0131yor muydum kendime? Ben babam ba\u015f\u0131mda diye mi do\u011fru duruyordum. Babam gider gitmez ipini koparan e\u015fek gibi tepi\u015fecek miydim? O kimdi? Ne kar\u015f\u0131yordu ve b\u00f6yle \u00e7irkin s\u00f6zler s\u00f6yleyebiliyordu bana? \u0130\u00e7imde f\u0131rt\u0131nalar koparak bir \u015fey demeden, diyemeden sessizce ba\u015f\u0131m \u00f6nde yerime oturdum…<\/span>

Bana namus dersi veren o adam y\u0131llar sonra teyzemi aldatt\u0131. Ba\u015fka kad\u0131na gitti… Tam be\u015f \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 vard\u0131. Bo\u015fand\u0131lar. Teyzem cahil Anadolu kad\u0131n\u0131 o ya\u015ftan sonra be\u015f \u00e7ocu\u011funa sahip \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p bakabilmek i\u00e7in i\u015fe girdi. Ve o \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n hepsini okuttu… i\u015fe soktu… evlendirdi… kendisi de emekli oldu. \u015eimdi yazlar\u0131 Eldivan’da yapt\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 evinde, k\u0131\u015f\u0131n ise Ankara’daki evinde \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 ve torunlar\u0131 ile huzurla ya\u015f\u0131yor…<\/span>

Ben ise babas\u0131z ge\u00e7en o y\u0131llarda okudum, i\u015fe girdim, evlendim, \u00e7oluk \u00e7ocuk derken emekli oldum ve \u015fimdi bu g\u00fcnler… Biz iki kad\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131zda bir erke\u011fe ihyiya\u00e7 duymadan b\u00f6yle g\u00fczel \u015feyler ba\u015far\u0131rken bana ahlak dersi veren o adam ahlaks\u0131zl\u0131k yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131…<\/span>

Demek ki biz kad\u0131nlar\u0131n namus bek\u00e7ili\u011fi i\u00e7in erkeklere pek ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z yok. Biz kendi kendimize sahip \u00e7\u0131kabiliriz. As\u0131l k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck bu zihniyetteki kimi erkeklerden geliyormu\u015f. \u00d6zgecan’\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na gelenler gibi… Ak\u015fam okulundan evine giden \u00fcniversite \u00f6\u011frencisi \u00d6zgecan Aslan… ne yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131 bu \u00e7ocuk?.. K\u00f6t\u00fc olan o muydu?.. B\u00fcy\u00fcklerimiz ve \u00f6ncelikle annelerimiz taraf\u0131ndan \u201cBa\u015f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00f6ne e\u011fecek bir \u015fey yapma\u201d diye namus uyar\u0131s\u0131 yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken yaln\u0131zca k\u0131zlar\u0131m\u0131z m\u0131? As\u0131l erkeklerin e\u011fitilmesi gerekmiyor mu? Peki ya bizi y\u00f6netenlerin bunda hi\u00e7 mi su\u00e7u yok!\u00a0 Bu durumda \u201cSiz \u00f6nce kendinize bak\u0131n bu tip beyler\u201d desem haks\u0131z m\u0131y\u0131m?<\/span>
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Kimileri ise bu ac\u0131l\u0131 olay\u0131 f\u0131rsat bilip sa\u00e7malayarak g\u00fcndeme gelme pe\u015fine d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcler. Yazar m\u00fcsveddesi kad\u0131nlar, kendini sanat\u00e7\u0131 sayan zavall\u0131lar ve o zihniyetteki erkek ama insan olamam\u0131\u015flar… \u201cTacizinizi yaz\u0131p kahraman m\u0131 olacaks\u0131n\u0131z\u201d diyen \u201cTaciz timi\u201d kurmay\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen varl\u0131klar\u0131ndan utan\u00e7 duydu\u011fum hemcinslerim…<\/span>

Art\u0131k patlama noktas\u0131nda pek \u00e7ok kad\u0131n\u0131m\u0131z-k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131z ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 payla\u015ft\u0131 sosyal medyada. Me\u011fer hemen hemen her kad\u0131n\u0131n ve gen\u00e7 k\u0131z\u0131n az ya da \u00e7ok-s\u00f6zl\u00fc ya da fiziksel taciz hikayesi varm\u0131\u015f… Bunlar\u0131n aras\u0131nda kimi hemcinslerimizden daha \u00e7ok i\u00e7i yanan ve destek veren erkekler vard\u0131 ki… Helal olsun onlar\u0131 do\u011furan ve yeti\u015ftiren anaya… ke\u015fke her erkek \u00f6yle olsa…<\/span>

Sonra herkes o \u00f6fke ile \u201cidam idam\u201d demeye ba\u015flad\u0131… kimileri de (ben de dahil) \u201c\u0130dam \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm de\u011fil, bireysel \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm olamaz.\u201d dedi… Ate\u015fli kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 yorumla\u015fmalar oldu sosyal medya \u00fczerinden.<\/span>

Sonra d\u00fcnyaca \u00fcnl\u00fc ressam\u0131m\u0131z nam-\u0131 di\u011fer \u201cgelincik adam\u201d Hikmet \u00c7etinkaya hocam\u0131z\u0131n yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir yorum vard\u0131 ki olay\u0131 \u00f6zetliyordu…<\/span>

\u015eimdi Hikmet hocama te\u015fekk\u00fcrlerimle benim de duygu ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerime terc\u00fcman olan ve konuya noktay\u0131 koyan s\u00f6zlerini sizinle payla\u015fmak istiyorum:<\/span>
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\u201c\u00d6zgecan Aslan’a yap\u0131lan taciz ve i\u015fkence, e\u011fitim seviyesi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fck, cahil, merhamet, vicdan, insan sevgisinden uzak ki\u015filerin i\u015fidir. Bu t\u00fcr ki\u015filer batakl\u0131ktaki sivrisinek kadar \u00e7oktur ve gittik\u00e7e de artmaktad\u0131r. Sinekleri yok etmekle, \u00f6ld\u00fcrmekle bunun \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7ilmez. Tek \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm yolu sivrisineklerin \u00e7o\u011falmas\u0131na sebep olan batakl\u0131\u011f\u0131n kurutulmas\u0131d\u0131r. Bu batakl\u0131k kurutulursa, buradan beslenen sineklerde kendili\u011finden yok olur. Hastal\u0131k sa\u00e7an batakl\u0131\u011f\u0131n kurutulmas\u0131 ancak e\u011fitimle, insanlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7a\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n gerektirdi\u011fi \u015fekilde e\u011fitmekle m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr.<\/span>

\u0130nsanlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 sosyalle\u015ftirmeliyiz, sevmeyi, g\u00fczeli, payla\u015f\u0131m\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretmeliyiz. B\u00fct\u00fcn insanlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, annelerimizi, babalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 duyarl\u0131 olmaya \u00e7a\u011f\u0131r\u0131yorum. Ba\u015fka \u00d6zgecan’lar \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fclmesin, ba\u015fka analar\u0131n y\u00fcrekleri yanmas\u0131n. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, insanlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 e\u011fitelim….\u201d<\/span>
\u00a0Painter Hikmet \u00c7etinkaya<\/span>

H\u00fclya Sezgin\/ hulyasezgin@hotmail.com<\/span><\/p>\n

Yaz\u0131ya 1050 d\u0259f\u0259 bax\u0131l\u0131b<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

On alt\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131ndayd\u0131m. Liseye gidiyordum. Okul y\u0131l sonu tatiline hen\u00fcz girmi\u015fti ki tatil sevincini ya\u015fayamadan bundan sonraki hayat\u0131m\u0131n seyrini de\u011fi\u015ftirecek ac\u0131 bir olayla y\u0131k\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131k. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc babam\u0131 kaybetmi\u015ftik. Dini gelenekler… helvas\u0131, lokmas\u0131… yedisi, k\u0131rk\u0131, elli ikisi derken y\u00fcre\u011fimizin yang\u0131n\u0131 biraz hafiflesin… biraz da akraba, e\u015f dost yak\u0131nlardan destek g\u00f6rmek i\u00e7in \u00c7ank\u0131r\u0131’ya gittik ana-k\u0131z. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ablam evli, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5758,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[6],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8321"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8321"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8321\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8323,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8321\/revisions\/8323"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/5758"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8321"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8321"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8321"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}