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F\u0259ls\u0259f\u0259 doktoru\u00a0Nancy van den Berg-Cook\"original_mirror\"<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

“Qar b\u0259yaz\u0131nda sehrli g\u00fczg\u00fc” adl\u0131 m\u0259qal\u0259sind\u0259n<\/em><\/p>\n

(orijinal\u0131:\u00a0\u201cThe Magic Mirror in Snow White\u201d<\/a>)<\/em><\/p>\n

T\u0259rc\u00fcm\u0259: Ayg\u00fcn Qurbanl\u0131<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cA\u011fb\u0259niz v\u0259 yeddi c\u0131rtdan\u201d na\u011f\u0131l\u0131ndak\u0131 sehrli g\u00fczg\u00fc n\u0259yin simvoludur?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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M\u00f6vzuya \u201cA\u011fb\u0259niz v\u0259 yeddi c\u0131rtdan\u201d sehrli na\u011f\u0131l\u0131, oradak\u0131 pis \u00f6gey ana v\u0259 onun sehrli g\u00fczg\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fcn b\u0259dii sur\u0259ti il\u0259 ba\u015flamaq ist\u0259yir\u0259m.<\/p>\n

Sehrli na\u011f\u0131l\u0131n b\u00fct\u00f6v \u015f\u0259rhini verm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259y\u0259m, oradak\u0131 bir ne\u00e7\u0259 m\u00f6vzunu \u0259laq\u0259li \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 \u201ch\u00f6rm\u0259k\u201d \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn na\u011f\u0131ldan istifad\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259y\u0259m.<\/p>\n

C. \u015eektman\u0131n \u201cSehrli na\u011f\u0131llardak\u0131 \u00d6gey Ana, \u0130tki v\u0259 Qad\u0131n K\u00f6lg\u0259si\u201d (1993) adl\u0131 m\u00fck\u0259mm\u0259l kitab\u0131nda t\u0259qdim etdiyi bax\u0131\u015f buca\u011f\u0131ndan yola \u00e7\u0131xaraq, hadis\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 diqq\u0259t etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flad\u0131m, fikrimi A\u011fb\u0259nizd\u0259n \u00e7ox ziyankar Krali\u00e7a \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 \u00a0toplay\u0131b, na\u011f\u0131l\u0131 ara\u015fd\u0131rmaq fikrin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcm.<\/p>\n

Hekay\u0259y\u0259 ke\u00e7m\u0259mi\u015fd\u0259n \u00f6nc\u0259 g\u0259lin \u201cSehrli na\u011f\u0131llarda niy\u0259 psixoloji m\u0259na axtar\u0131r\u0131q?\u201d sual\u0131n\u0131 n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259n ke\u00e7ir\u0259k.<\/p>\n

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Ba\u015fqalar\u0131nda bizi q\u0131c\u0131qland\u0131ran h\u0259r \u015fey \u0259slind\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc d\u0259rk etm\u0259yimiz\u0259 aparan yoldur. Carl Jung<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

Yuxular kimi, sehrli na\u011f\u0131llar da \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131n\u0131n m\u0259hsulu kimi \u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r, \u015f\u00fcurlu bax\u0131\u015fa tamamlay\u0131c\u0131 x\u0259yali g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f t\u0259klif edir.<\/p>\n

Bel\u0259likl\u0259, \u015f\u00fcurlu m\u00fcnasib\u0259t qeyri-real v\u0259 \u00e7ox dar oldu\u011fu zaman \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131ndan qaynaqlanan x\u0259yali g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn t\u0259dqiqi \u00e7ox faydal\u0131 ola bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

\u0130nsanlar\u0131n f\u0259rdi \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 yuxudan f\u0259rqli olaraq, sehrli na\u011f\u0131llar b\u00fct\u00f6v m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 ya\u015famaqdad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Sehrli na\u011f\u0131llar t\u0259sirli, kollektiv bir fantaziyad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

M\u00fcxt\u0259lif na\u011f\u0131l dan\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131n h\u0259min na\u011f\u0131llara \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259n \u0259lav\u0259 etdikl\u0259ri elementl\u0259r \u0259l\u0259n\u0259n qum kimi ar\u0131n\u0131b t\u00f6k\u00fcld\u00fckc\u0259, sehrli na\u011f\u0131llarda daha universal m\u00f6vzular qalacaq v\u0259 onlar daha geni\u015f insan qrupu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ke\u00e7\u0259rli olacaq.<\/p>\n

Burada na\u011f\u0131l\u0131 Qrim qarda\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131 kimi, lakin bir q\u0259d\u0259r q\u0131sald\u0131lm\u0131\u015f formada t\u0259qdim edir\u0259m.<\/p>\n

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A\u011fb\u0259niz v\u0259 yeddi c\u0131rtdan<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Q\u0131\u015f\u0131n o\u011flan \u00e7a\u011f\u0131nda \u00f6vlad\u0131 olmayan bir krali\u00e7a p\u0259nc\u0259r\u0259nin yan\u0131nda oturub tiki\u015f tikirdi.<\/p>\n

Bird\u0259n \u0259lin\u0259 iyn\u0259 batd\u0131 v\u0259 qan qar\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcn\u0259 damc\u0131lad\u0131. O, qan q\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n qar\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 g\u00f6z\u0259l g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fcb dedi:<\/p>\n

\u201cKa\u015f qar kimi a\u011f, qan kimi q\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 v\u0259 p\u0259nc\u0259r\u0259 \u00e7\u0259r\u00e7iv\u0259sinin taxtas\u0131 kimi qara r\u0259ngl\u0259rl\u0259 qar\u0131\u015f\u0131q bir u\u015fa\u011f\u0131m olayd\u0131.\u201d<\/p>\n

Doqquz ay sonra onun bir q\u0131z\u0131 oldu. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n d\u0259 qar kimi b\u0259yaz, qan kimi q\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131, qapqara sa\u00e7lar\u0131 vard\u0131. Lakin Krali\u00e7a do\u011fu\u015f zaman\u0131 \u00f6l\u00fcr.<\/p>\n

Kral ba\u015fqa qad\u0131nla evl\u0259nir; bu qad\u0131n \u00e7ox g\u00f6z\u0259l idi, bununla yana\u015f\u0131, \u00e7ox v\u00fcqarl\u0131 v\u0259 g\u00f6z\u0259lliyin\u0259 r\u0259qib ola bil\u0259c\u0259k h\u0259r k\u0259s\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 olduqca q\u0131sqanc idi.<\/p>\n

Onun sehrli g\u00fczg\u00fcs\u00fc vard\u0131, bu g\u00fczg\u00fcn\u00fcn qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda durub tez-tez soru\u015fard\u0131:<\/p>\n

\u201cDivardak\u0131 g\u00f6z\u0259l ayna,<\/strong><\/p>\n

m\u0259nd\u0259n g\u00f6z\u0259li varm\u0131 d\u00fcnyada?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

G\u00fczg\u00fc cavab\u0131nda dey\u0259rdi: \u201cS\u0259ns\u0259n, m\u0259nim Krali\u00e7am, h\u0259r k\u0259sd\u0259n \u0259n g\u00f6z\u0259li\u201d. Bunu e\u015fid\u0259n Krali\u00e7a \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc xo\u015fb\u0259xt hiss ed\u0259rdi, \u00e7\u00fcnki bilirdi ki, sehrli g\u00fczg\u00fcs\u00fc he\u00e7 vaxt yalan dan\u0131\u015fm\u0131r.<\/p>\n

A\u011fb\u0259niz b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fckc\u0259 g\u00fcn\u00fc-g\u00fcnd\u0259n g\u00f6z\u0259ll\u0259\u015firdi v\u0259 bir g\u00fcn yeddi ya\u015f\u0131na \u00e7atd\u0131qda, ya\u015fl\u0131 krali\u00e7a sehrli aynas\u0131ndan kimin b\u00fct\u00fcn d\u00fcnyada \u0259n g\u00f6z\u0259l oldu\u011funu soru\u015fur. E\u015fitdiyi cavab bel\u0259 olur:<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u201cS\u0259nin, m\u0259nim krali\u00e7am, g\u00f6z\u0259lliyin nadirdir,<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0 ancaq A\u011fb\u0259niz s\u0259nd\u0259n min d\u0259f\u0259 g\u00f6z\u0259ldir\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Bunu e\u015fitc\u0259k Krali\u00e7a hidd\u0259tl\u0259nir, A\u011fb\u0259niz\u0259 el\u0259 nifr\u0259t edir ki, ona bir an olsun rahatl\u0131q verm\u0259m\u0259k q\u0259rar\u0131na g\u0259lir.<\/p>\n

Ov\u00e7uya \u0259mr edir ki, q\u0131zc\u0131\u011faz\u0131 me\u015f\u0259y\u0259 apars\u0131n, \u00f6ld\u00fcrs\u00fcn v\u0259 \u00f6ld\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fcn s\u00fcbutu kimi ciy\u0259rl\u0259rini ona g\u0259tirsin.<\/p>\n

Lakin ov\u00e7unun u\u015fa\u011fa yaz\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u0259lir, onu azad burax\u0131r, \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259 qaban \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcb, ciy\u0259rl\u0259rini krali\u00e7aya apar\u0131r. Krali\u00e7a onlar\u0131 bi\u015firtdirib, el\u0259 h\u0259min gec\u0259 yeyir.<\/p>\n

Bu arada A\u011fb\u0259niz me\u015f\u0259nin d\u0259rinlikl\u0259rin\u0259 qa\u00e7\u0131r, yeddi c\u0131rtdan\u0131n evini tap\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Sevincl\u0259rind\u0259n hoppanan c\u0131rtdanlar A\u011fb\u0259niz\u0259 \u0259g\u0259r evi t\u0259mizl\u0259s\u0259, yem\u0259k haz\u0131rlasa, \u00e7arpay\u0131lar\u0131 y\u0131\u011f\u0131\u015fd\u0131rsa, tiki\u015f i\u015fl\u0259rini g\u00f6rs\u0259, onlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn toxusa, h\u0259r \u015feyi s\u0259liq\u0259li saxlasa onlarla qalma\u011fa icaz\u0259 ver\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rini v\u0259 laz\u0131m olan h\u0259r \u015feyl\u0259 t\u0259min ed\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rini s\u00f6yl\u0259yirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Na\u011f\u0131l\u0131n ard\u0131n\u0131n q\u0131sa x\u00fclas\u0259si<\/strong>:<\/em>\u00a0Tezlikl\u0259 Krali\u00e7a sehrli g\u00fczg\u00fc vasit\u0259sil\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259nir ki, A\u011fb\u0259niz h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 sa\u011fd\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Hirsl\u0259n\u0259n qad\u0131n q\u0131zc\u0131\u011faz\u0131 \u00f6ld\u00fcrm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00fc\u00e7 d\u0259f\u0259 c\u0259hd edir, n\u0259hay\u0259t, z\u0259h\u0259rli alman\u0131n k\u00f6m\u0259yil\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc c\u0259hdd\u0259 m\u0259qs\u0259din\u0259 \u00e7atd\u0131\u011f\u0131na inan\u0131r.<\/p>\n

A\u011fb\u0259nizin cans\u0131z b\u0259d\u0259nini g\u00f6r\u0259n c\u0131rtdanlar bel\u0259 g\u0259nc v\u0259 g\u00f6z\u0259l b\u0259d\u0259ni torpaqda basd\u0131rmaq ist\u0259mirl\u0259r v\u0259 onu \u015f\u0259ffaf \u015f\u00fc\u015f\u0259 tabutun i\u00e7in\u0259 qoyub saxlay\u0131rlar ki, h\u0259r k\u0259s g\u00f6rs\u00fcn.<\/p>\n

Zaman ke\u00e7ir, bir \u015fahzad\u0259 g\u0259lir v\u0259 bu cans\u0131z g\u00f6z\u0259l\u0259 vurulur. Xidm\u0259t\u00e7il\u0259rin\u0259 A\u011fb\u0259nizin tabutunu \u00f6z saray\u0131na da\u015f\u0131ma\u011f\u0131 \u0259mr edir.<\/p>\n

Xidm\u0259t\u00e7il\u0259r yolda s\u0259ntirl\u0259yirl\u0259r v\u0259 tabutu d\u00f6nd\u0259r\u0259r\u0259k A\u011fb\u0259nizin\u00a0 silk\u0259l\u0259nm\u0259sin\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b olurlar. Q\u0131z\u0131n bo\u011faz\u0131nda ili\u015fib qalm\u0131\u015f z\u0259h\u0259rli alman\u0131n bir hiss\u0259si bay\u0131ra t\u00f6k\u00fcl\u00fcr v\u0259 bel\u0259likl\u0259, A\u011fb\u0259niz dir\u00e7\u0259lir.<\/p>\n

O da \u015fahzad\u0259y\u0259 vurulur v\u0259 toy g\u00fcnl\u0259rind\u0259 pis Krali\u00e7an\u0131 c\u0259zaland\u0131r\u0131rlar; o, \u00f6l\u0259n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r odda q\u0131zd\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f d\u0259mir ayaqqab\u0131larla r\u0259qs etm\u0259li olur.<\/p>\n

Biz burada g\u00fczg\u00fcn\u00fcn m\u0259rk\u0259zi rol oynad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck. B\u0259s sehrli g\u00fczg\u00fcl\u0259rin simvolik m\u0259nalar\u0131 n\u0259dir? M\u0259n g\u00fczg\u00fc r\u0259mzinin iki vacib aspektini t\u0259svir etm\u0259k ist\u0259rdim.<\/p>\n

Birincisi, g\u00fczg\u00fc \u015f\u00fcurla \u015f\u00fcursuzluq aras\u0131nda astana rolunu t\u0259msil edir. \u0130kincisi, o vacib psixoloji funksiyan\u0131 yerin\u0259 yetirir.<\/p>\n

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G\u00fczg\u00fc \u2013 astana rolunda<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Marie \u2013Louise von Franz \u201c\u018fksolunma v\u0259 Xat\u0131rlatma\u201d (“Projection and Recollection”, 1990) kitab\u0131nda g\u00fczg\u00fcn\u00fcn simvolik m\u0259nas\u0131n\u0131 ara\u015fd\u0131r\u0131b.<\/p>\n

O, insanl\u0131q tarixi boyunca m\u00fcxt\u0259lif m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 parlaq s\u0259thl\u0259rin ilahi m\u0259na ifad\u0259 etdiyini g\u00f6st\u0259rir. Ba\u015fqa s\u00f6zl\u0259 des\u0259k, insanlar h\u0259r zaman sur\u0259ti \u0259ks etdir\u0259n s\u0259thl\u0259r\u0259 heyranl\u0131q duymu\u015flar, onlar\u0131n m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n f\u00f6vq\u0259l-g\u00fccl\u0259ri oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fc\u015fl\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Dr.Cekobin \u201cNarsis\u201d mifi haqda m\u00fczakir\u0259 aparak\u0259n suyun sur\u0259t \u0259ks etdirici s\u0259thinin h\u0259min mifin m\u0259rk\u0259zind\u0259 durdu\u011funu qeyd edib.<\/p>\n

Narsis sudak\u0131 \u00f6z \u0259ksin\u0259 ona g\u00f6r\u0259 heyran olmu\u015fdu ki, su onun \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc \u0259ks etdirirdi v\u0259 ya \u0259n az\u0131 ona g\u00f6r\u0259 ki, o, \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fc tan\u0131ma\u011fa yax\u0131nla\u015f\u0131rd\u0131.<\/p>\n

B\u0259s niy\u0259 v\u0259 nec\u0259 olur ki, o, \u201c\u00d6z\u201d-\u00fc \u0259ks etdirir? Biz art\u0131q bilirik ki, Karl Yunq suyun sur\u0259t \u0259ks etdirici s\u0259thinin \u015fuuralt\u0131n\u0131n simvolu oldu\u011funu g\u00f6st\u0259rirdi.<\/p>\n

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G\u00fczg\u00fc \u015f\u00fcurla \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131 aras\u0131nda astana funksiyan\u0131 simvoliz\u0259 edir, insan ona baxmaqla \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131n\u0131n d\u0259rinlikl\u0259rin\u0259 boylana bilir…<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

H\u0259m\u00e7inin Von Franz \u00a0da \u201c\u018fksolunma v\u0259 Xat\u0131rlatma\u201d (“Projection and Recollection”) kitab\u0131nda \u0259ksetdirici s\u0259th v\u0259 \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131 aras\u0131ndak\u0131 \u0259laq\u0259ni t\u0259svir edir:<\/p>\n

\u015e\u00fcuralt\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fczg\u00fc kimi \u0259ksetdirici s\u0259th\u0259 malik olan su il\u0259 simvoliz\u0259 edilm\u0259si \u0259lb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, onun \u0259ksetm\u0259 x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tin\u0259 \u0259saslan\u0131r.<\/p>\n

B\u0259nz\u0259rlik t\u0259\u0259cc\u00fcbl\u00fc d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 m\u0259nal\u0131d\u0131r. Suyun d\u0259rinlikl\u0259rini \u201cg\u00f6r\u0259\u201d bilm\u0259diyimiz kimi, \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131n\u0131n d\u0259rin sah\u0259l\u0259ri d\u0259 bizim \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259z olaraq qal\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Ancaq\u00a0 s\u0259thd\u0259 – \u015f\u00fcurla \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131 aras\u0131ndak\u0131 astanada x\u0259yali t\u0259svirl\u0259r spontan \u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r. D\u0259rinlikl\u0259ri yaln\u0131z g\u00f6rm\u0259kl\u0259 deyil, h\u0259m d\u0259 \u015f\u00fcurlu \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259timizin \u0259ks olunmas\u0131 il\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259n\u0259 bil\u0259rik.<\/p>\n

\u018fksolunma h\u0259r iki \u201cd\u00fcnya\u201dda\u00a0 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 yer ed\u0259n simvolik t\u0259svirl\u0259r vasit\u0259sil\u0259 ba\u015f verir.<\/em><\/p>\n

Bel\u0259likl\u0259, g\u00fczg\u00fc \u015f\u00fcurla \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131 aras\u0131nda astana, kandar funksiyan\u0131 simvoliz\u0259 edir v\u0259 insan ona baxmaqla \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131n\u0131n d\u0259rinlikl\u0259rin\u0259 boylana bilir. G\u00fczg\u00fcn\u00fcn yaratd\u0131\u011f\u0131 t\u0259svir simvolik olub, h\u0259r iki al\u0259mi – \u015f\u00fcur v\u0259 \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131n\u0131 – anlad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u018fd\u0259biyyatda simvolla\u015fd\u0131rman\u0131n buna uy\u011fun \u0259n yax\u015f\u0131 n\u00fcmun\u0259si G\u00f6tenin\u201cFaust\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0\u0259s\u0259rind\u0259ki sehrli ayna say\u0131la bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

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\"\"“Faust” filmind\u0259n, rejissor F.W. Murnau<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

Mefistofel<\/strong>\u00a0Faustu ifrit\u0259nin m\u0259tb\u0259xin\u0259 g\u0259tirir.<\/p>\n

Faust orada sehrli ayna tap\u0131r v\u0259 ona baxd\u0131qca g\u00f6rd\u00fcy\u00fcn\u0259 a\u015fiq olur.<\/p>\n

Faust \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131nda n\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcrd\u00fc?<\/p>\n

Yuxar\u0131da izah etdiyimiz kimi, o, \u00f6z \u015f\u00fcurlu \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tinin \u0259ksini g\u00f6r\u00fcrd\u00fc.<\/p>\n

Faust intellekt al\u0259mind\u0259 itib-batan, h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n \u015f\u0259hv\u0259tini itirmi\u015f, tamamil\u0259 yor\u011fun v\u0259 t\u00fck\u0259nmi\u015f alim kimi t\u0259svir olunmu\u015fdu.<\/p>\n

G\u00fczg\u00fcd\u0259 is\u0259 o, sa\u011flam, canl\u0131 qad\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fcr, h\u0259min qad\u0131n onun \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 olmayan h\u0259r \u015feyi simvoliz\u0259 ed\u0259n g\u00f6rk\u0259m\u0259 malik idi. Fausta g\u00f6r\u0259, g\u00f6rd\u00fcy\u00fc qad\u0131n g\u00f6z\u0259lliyi, seksual ist\u0259k v\u0259 instinkt al\u0259mi idi.<\/p>\n

Biz sonralar onu Karl Yunqun\u00a0 \u201cki\u015fi anima\u201ds\u0131 adland\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 m\u0259fhum kimi tan\u0131yaca\u011f\u0131q.<\/p>\n

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\"CarlCarl Gustav Jung<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

(Yunq ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259\u00a0Anima<\/em><\/strong>, qad\u0131nlarda is\u0259\u00a0Animus<\/strong><\/em>u m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n etmi\u015fdi.<\/p>\n

Anima<\/em>\u00a0– lat\u0131nca \u201cq\u0259lb\u201d, ki\u015fid\u0259 daxili qad\u0131n obraz\u0131, qeyri-\u015f\u00fcuri qad\u0131n t\u0259r\u0259fidir.<\/p>\n

Ki\u015finin t\u0259ht\u0259l\u015f\u00fcurunda zahiri h\u0259yatdan s\u0131x\u0131\u015fd\u0131r\u0131l\u0131b \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131lm\u0131\u015f, onu tamamlayan qad\u0131n elementi vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Bu obraz\u0131n k\u00f6m\u0259yi il\u0259 ki\u015fi qad\u0131n t\u0259bi\u0259tini d\u0259rk edir. Animus – lat\u0131nca \u201cruh\u201d \u2013 qad\u0131nda ki\u015fi obraz\u0131, onun qeyri-\u015f\u00fcuri ki\u015fi t\u0259r\u0259fidir.)<\/p>\n

Bel\u0259likl\u0259, bir d\u0259f\u0259 g\u00fczg\u00fcd\u0259 bu qad\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rm\u0259kl\u0259 Faust onun ard\u0131nca gedir v\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131 d\u0259yi\u015fir.<\/p>\n

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Psixoloji inki\u015fafda \u0259ksolunma<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Refleksiya v\u0259 (g\u00fczg\u00fcd\u0259) \u0259ksolunma m\u00fcasir psixologiyada son d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259 vacib m\u00f6vzulard\u0131r. Bunlar k\u00f6rp\u0259l\u0259rin v\u0259 erk\u0259n ya\u015fda u\u015faqlar\u0131n \u015f\u00fcur v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcd\u0259rk hissini sa\u011flam \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 inki\u015faf etdirm\u0259l\u0259rini anlamam\u0131z \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259sas prosesdir.<\/p>\n

Bir \u00e7ox psixoloqlar bu prosesd\u0259 ana-k\u00f6rp\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tinin vacibliyini vur\u011fulay\u0131r, ancaq \u0259n ayd\u0131n v\u0259 inand\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 izah\u0131 1960-c\u0131 ill\u0259rd\u0259 britaniyal\u0131 u\u015faq psixoanalisti\u00a0Donald Vinikot<\/strong>\u00a0verib.<\/p>\n

Bu m\u00f6vzuda yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u0259sas m\u00fchazir\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n biri \u201cU\u015fa\u011f\u0131n inki\u015faf\u0131nda ana v\u0259 ail\u0259nin g\u00fczg\u00fc rolu\u201d (1967) \u0259s\u0259ridir. O, k\u00f6rp\u0259nin ilkin qay\u011f\u0131s\u0131nda anan\u0131 \u0259sas g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u0259r\u0259k \u0259ksolunma funksiyas\u0131n\u0131 \u0259vv\u0259lc\u0259 ona, daha sonra ail\u0259y\u0259 aid edirdi.<\/p>\n

\u018fksolunma\u00a0<\/em>dey\u0259rk\u0259n n\u0259yi n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tuturuq? Yunq psixologiyas\u0131 u\u015faq psixoterapisti\u00a0B.Feldman<\/strong>\u0131n Leonardo da Vin\u00e7inin \u0259ksolunman\u0131 nec\u0259 i\u015f\u0131qland\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 haqda a\u00e7\u0131qlamas\u0131 \u00e7ox maraql\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, u\u015faq g\u00fcl\u00fcms\u0259m\u0259 mimikas\u0131 edir, ana da \u0259v\u0259zind\u0259 ona g\u00fcl\u00fcr v\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 k\u00f6rp\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259nir: \u201cM\u018fN G\u00dcL\u00dcR\u018fM\u201d.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

\u201cM\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259s Anna, Maddona v\u0259 U\u015faq\u201d r\u0259smind\u0259 u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n sevgi il\u0259 anas\u0131na baxd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck.<\/p>\n

Erk\u0259n u\u015faql\u0131q d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259 says\u0131z-hesabs\u0131z bu kimi hallara \u015fahidik – u\u015faq geri d\u00f6n\u00fcb anas\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcz\u00fcn\u0259 bax\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Vinikotun \u0259sas ideyas\u0131 budur ki, yeni do\u011fulmu\u015f k\u00f6rp\u0259 ona do\u011fru baxan sif\u0259t\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259rini zill\u0259yib baxmaqla \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fcr – h\u0259l\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc anas\u0131ndan f\u0259rql\u0259ndir\u0259 bilmir.<\/p>\n

T\u0259dric\u0259n k\u00f6rp\u0259 anas\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fcn \u201cba\u015fqa\u201d \u00fcz oldu\u011funu anlama\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r v\u0259 ola bilsin, bu ba\u015fqa \u00fcz\u00fcn n\u0259 etdiyini bilm\u0259k ist\u0259yir.<\/p>\n

K\u00f6rp\u0259 getdikc\u0259 anlay\u0131r ki, \u201cba\u015fqa \u00fcz m\u0259n\u0259 bax\u0131r\u201d v\u0259 bu, u\u015faq\u011f\u0131n al\u0259mind\u0259 \u201cM\u018fN VARAM\u201d m\u0259nas\u0131n\u0131 verir. BUNLAR \u015e\u00dcURUN \u0130LK ADDIMLARIDIR.<\/p>\n

Proses davam etdikc\u0259 k\u00f6rp\u0259 bu \u201cg\u00fczg\u00fc\u201d il\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 \u0259laq\u0259y\u0259 girir v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fc haqda \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r, m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, u\u015faq g\u00fcl\u00fcms\u0259m\u0259 mimikas\u0131 edir, ana da \u0259v\u0259zind\u0259 ona g\u00fcl\u00fcr v\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 k\u00f6rp\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259nir: \u201cM\u018fN G\u00dcL\u00dcR\u018fM\u201d.<\/p>\n

U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc ifad\u0259 etm\u0259sind\u0259 bu m\u00fcbadil\u0259nin n\u0259 d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 m\u0259rk\u0259zi rol da\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 dem\u0259y\u0259 ehtiyac yoxdur.<\/p>\n

U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fc haqda g\u00fccl\u00fc \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcd\u0259rk hissi inki\u015faf etdirm\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ilkin qay\u011f\u0131 \u00e7\u0259k\u0259nin v\u0259 sonralar ail\u0259nin t\u0259\u015f\u0259bb\u00fcsl\u0259ri u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n \u201c\u015f\u0259xsi\u201d t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259 \u0259ks olunmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, yaln\u0131z \u015f\u0259n h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 anas\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n \u015f\u0259n reaksiyalarla cavab g\u0259ldiyini g\u00f6r\u0259n u\u015faq, \u015f\u0259n olmayan davran\u0131\u015flara cavab g\u0259lm\u0259diyini hiss etdikd\u0259, \u00e7ox g\u00fcman ki, \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tinin \u00fczg\u00fcn, k\u0259d\u0259rli y\u00f6nl\u0259rini \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259kd\u0259 v\u0259 onu \u00d6z \u015f\u00fcuruna inteqrasiya etm\u0259kd\u0259 \u00e7\u0259tinlik \u00e7\u0259k\u0259c\u0259k.<\/p>\n

\u018fksolunma prosesi davaml\u0131 olaraq kobud \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 pozulubsa, yetkinlik ya\u015f\u0131na \u00e7atan insanda\u00a0\u201cNarsistik \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t poz\u011funlu\u011fu\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0inki\u015faf edir. Narsisizm kafi d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 \u0259ksolunmama problemidir; kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r \u0259ksolunmama bu prosesin h\u0259m keyfiyy\u0259tsiz h\u0259m d\u0259 yet\u0259rsiz oldu\u011funa i\u015far\u0259dir.<\/p>\n

\u0130nsanlar\u0131n, h\u0259tta yetkin insanlar\u0131n bel\u0259 inikasa (\u0259ksolunmaya) n\u0259 d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 ehtiyaclar\u0131 var? V\u0259 daha m\u0259nal\u0131 inikas\u0131 kim t\u0259min edir? Yunq ara\u015fd\u0131rma\u00e7\u0131s\u0131N.\u015evar\u00e7-Salant<\/strong>\u00a0narsisizm \u00fczr\u0259 tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015f m\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssisdir.<\/p>\n

O, insanlar\u0131n \u00e7\u0259tinliy\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fckl\u0259ri d\u00f6vrd\u0259 v\u0259 ya b\u00fct\u00fcn h\u0259yatlar\u0131 boyu ba\u015fqalar\u0131ndan m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259 \u0259ksolunma t\u0259l\u0259b etdikl\u0259rini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. \u018fslind\u0259 bu \u0259ksolunman\u0131 t\u0259min etm\u0259k psixoterapiyan\u0131n bir hiss\u0259sidir.<\/p>\n

Yuxar\u0131da\u00a0Da Vin\u00e7i<\/strong>nin ad\u0131 \u00e7\u0259kil\u0259n tablosunda biz h\u0259m\u00e7inin Madonnan\u0131n da \u0259ksolunma il\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131la\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u0259 bilirik.<\/p>\n

Anas\u0131 M\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259s Anna ona sevgi v\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131 il\u0259 baxark\u0259n, Maddona onun dizl\u0259ri \u00fcst\u0259 oturub \u00f6z k\u00f6rp\u0259sin\u0259 bax\u0131r; burada Annan\u0131n M\u0259ry\u0259m v\u0259 \u0130sa aras\u0131ndak\u0131 b\u00fct\u00f6v m\u00fcbadil\u0259y\u0259 sevgi dolu n\u0259z\u0259rl\u0259rl\u0259 d\u0259st\u0259k verdiyi t\u0259svir olunub.<\/p>\n

Biz ana v\u0259 u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n h\u0259r ikisinin Annadan g\u0259l\u0259n, onun t\u0259min etdiyi \u0259ksolunma il\u0259 b\u0259hr\u0259l\u0259ndiyini t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcr ed\u0259 bilirik.<\/p>\n

Dediyimiz kimi, k\u00f6rp\u0259lik \u00e7a\u011flar\u0131nda \u201cilkin qay\u011f\u0131 \u00e7\u0259k\u0259nl\u0259r\u201d \u0259ksolunma prosesini t\u0259min edirl\u0259r. Lakin u\u015faq b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fckc\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131ndak\u0131 dig\u0259r ilkin fiqurlar da \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259t da\u015f\u0131ma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. \u0130lk m\u0259kt\u0259b m\u00fc\u0259lliml\u0259ri, ondan b\u00f6y\u00fck bac\u0131-qarda\u015flar\u0131, x\u00fcsusil\u0259 yeniyetm\u0259 ya\u015flar\u0131ndak\u0131 dostlar\u0131 v\u0259 h\u0259min d\u00f6vr\u00fcn m\u0259h\u015fur fiqurlar\u0131.<\/p>\n

\u018fg\u0259r biz valideyinl\u0259rd\u0259n ba\u015flayaraq, b\u00fct\u00fcn bu insanlar\u0131 toplasaq, onlar daha geni\u015f m\u00fcst\u0259vid\u0259 m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259t\u0259 t\u0259sir edirl\u0259r. Yaxud valideyinl\u0259rl\u0259 yana\u015f\u0131, b\u00fct\u00fcn m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259t \u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259 ayr\u0131ca f\u0259rdl\u0259rd\u0259 \u0259ksolunma funksiyas\u0131 da\u015f\u0131ya bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

A\u011fb\u0259niz na\u011f\u0131l\u0131ndak\u0131 pis \u00d6gey Anaya geri d\u00f6n\u0259k, qad\u0131na onun n\u00f6qteyi-n\u0259z\u0259rind\u0259n baxaq. Bu qad\u0131n kimdir, niy\u0259 bu q\u0259d\u0259r q\u0259ddard\u0131r v\u0259 niy\u0259 g\u00fczg\u00fcy\u0259 bu q\u0259d\u0259r ba\u011fl\u0131dir?<\/p>\n

\u018fg\u0259r biz f\u0259rdin psixoloji diaqnozunu t\u0259yin etm\u0259 texnikas\u0131n\u0131 x\u0259yali fiqura t\u0259tbiq ed\u0259 bils\u0259k, s\u00f6z\u00fcged\u0259n personaj klassik narsistik \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t poz\u011funlu\u011fu simptomlar\u0131na uy\u011fun g\u0259lir. Bu simptomlara a\u015fa\u011f\u0131dak\u0131lar daxildir:<\/p>\n

Q\u0259z\u0259b:<\/strong>\u00a0<\/em>Narsistl\u0259r onlar\u0131n m\u0259nlik hissini yerind\u0259n oynadan \u0259traf m\u00fchit d\u0259yi\u015fiklikl\u0259rin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 d\u00f6z\u00fcml\u00fc ola bilmirl\u0259r. Buna sad\u0259 misal u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 m\u0259kt\u0259bd\u0259 u\u011fursuzluqla qar\u015f\u0131la\u015fan zaman narsist valideynin tipik cavab\u0131 ola bil\u0259r. Problem valideyind\u0259 ad\u0259t\u0259n\u00a0 bu \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 \u0259ks olunur: \u201c M\u018fN\u0130M dostlar\u0131m n\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259rl\u0259r?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201c\u00d6z\u201d hissinin z\u0259if olmas\u0131:<\/strong>\u00a0<\/em>Krali\u00e7a davaml\u0131 olaraq g\u00fczg\u00fcy\u0259 bax\u0131rd\u0131, \u015f\u00fcbh\u0259siz ki, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn kim olmas\u0131 hissini tamamlamaq \u00fcmidil\u0259 bax\u0131rd\u0131. O, d\u00f6n\u0259-d\u00f6n\u0259, \u00f6z\u00fc haqda bir daha \u0259min olmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn sual verir, soru\u015furdu.<\/p>\n

G\u00fczg\u00fcy\u0259 bu q\u0259d\u0259r tutunmas\u0131, onda \u00f6z\u00fc haqda stabil hissin olmamas\u0131na i\u015far\u0259dir. O, bilmir ki, o kimdir v\u0259 ya nec\u0259dir, ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 g\u00fczg\u00fcy\u0259 bu q\u0259d\u0259r bax\u0131r v\u0259 ona sual verir.<\/p>\n

G\u00fczg\u00fc daha onun \u0259n g\u00f6z\u0259l qad\u0131n olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 dey\u0259nd\u0259, qad\u0131n el\u0259 q\u0259z\u0259bl\u0259nir ki, A\u011fb\u0259niz\u0259 rahatl\u0131q verm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259yini deyir.<\/p>\n

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Patriarxal m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259timizd\u0259 \u00e7ox sayda qad\u0131n \u00f6zl\u0259rini d\u0259y\u0259rli hiss etm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn fiziki g\u00f6z\u0259llikl\u0259rin\u0259 arxalan\u0131r v\u0259 bunu ifad\u0259 etm\u0259yin \u0259n yax\u015f\u0131 yolu g\u00fczg\u00fcd\u00fcr…<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

O, narsist b\u00f6hran\u0131 ya\u015fay\u0131r, ancaq niy\u0259?<\/p>\n

G\u0259nclik g\u00f6z\u0259lliyinin azalmas\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 niy\u0259 bu q\u0259d\u0259r aqressivl\u0259\u015fir?<\/p>\n

\u018flb\u0259tt\u0259, ya\u015flanma hissi narahatl\u0131q ver\u0259 bil\u0259r, ancaq birisini q\u0259tl ed\u0259c\u0259k h\u0259dd\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259rmi?<\/p>\n

Suala cavab verm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bel\u0259 yana\u015fmaq olar, ya\u015flanma krizisi yaln\u0131z o vaxt ba\u015f verir ki, bizim \u201c\u00d6z\u201d\u00fcm\u00fcz haqda ilkin hissimiz v\u0259 bunun davam\u0131 olaraq, onun \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulmu\u015f \u201crifah\u0131m\u0131z\u201d, \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc yax\u015f\u0131 hiss etm\u0259miz g\u0259nclik g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fcz\u0259 \u0259saslans\u0131n, onun \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulmu\u015f olsun.<\/p>\n

Patriarxal m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259timizd\u0259 \u00e7ox sayda qad\u0131n \u00f6zl\u0259rini d\u0259y\u0259rli hiss etm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00a0fiziki g\u00f6z\u0259llikl\u0259rin\u0259 arxalan\u0131r v\u0259 bunu ifad\u0259 etm\u0259yin \u0259n yax\u015f\u0131 yolu g\u00fczg\u00fcd\u00fcr, g\u00fczg\u00fc onlar\u0131n \u00f6zl\u0259rini \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 \u0259ks etdirir.<\/p>\n

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Sad\u0259c\u0259 \u0259traf\u0131n\u0131za boylan\u0131n, filml\u0259rd\u0259n, televiziya proqramlar\u0131ndan, avtobus dayanacaqlar\u0131ndak\u0131 reklam l\u00f6vh\u0259l\u0259rin\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r h\u0259r \u015fey qad\u0131n\u0131n nec\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259li oldu\u011funu xat\u0131rlatmaqla m\u0259\u015f\u011fuldur.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

Bu hal \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc\u00a0 tarix\u0259n, x\u00fcsusil\u0259 patriarxal d\u00f6vr\u00fcn k\u0259skin zamanlar\u0131nda, qad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00f6zl\u0259rini ba\u015fqa he\u00e7 n\u0259 il\u0259 inki\u015faf etdir\u0259 bilm\u0259m\u0259l\u0259ri, intellektual v\u0259 ya atletik bacar\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xara bilm\u0259dikl\u0259ri d\u00f6vrd\u0259 daha qabar\u0131q b\u00fcruz\u0259 verirdi.<\/p>\n

M\u0259n indi Q\u0259rb m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259ti haqda daha geni\u015f dan\u0131\u015fmaq ist\u0259yir\u0259m, ola bilsin bu, kobud \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 \u00fcmumil\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259 olacaq, ancaq bunda qism\u0259n d\u0259 olsa, h\u0259qiq\u0259t pay\u0131 var.<\/p>\n

Bu q\u0259d\u0259r qad\u0131n h\u0259r\u0259katlar\u0131n\u0131n m\u00f6vcud olmas\u0131na baxmayaraq, \u00e7a\u011fda\u015f m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259timiz h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 g\u0259nc q\u0131zlar\u0131 g\u00f6z\u0259llik haqda olduqca dar standartlara inand\u0131rma\u011fa c\u0259hd etm\u0259kd\u0259dir.<\/p>\n

Sad\u0259c\u0259 \u0259traf\u0131n\u0131za boylan\u0131n, filml\u0259rd\u0259n, televiziya proqramlar\u0131ndan, \u00a0avtobus dayanacaqlar\u0131ndak\u0131 reklam l\u00f6vh\u0259l\u0259rin\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r h\u0259r \u015fey qad\u0131n\u0131n nec\u0259g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259li oldu\u011funu xat\u0131rlatmaqla<\/em>\u00a0m\u0259\u015f\u011fuldur.<\/p>\n

\u018fg\u0259r biz m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259tin geni\u015f miqyasda f\u0259rdl\u0259ri d\u0259st\u0259kl\u0259m\u0259si v\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 etm\u0259si, onlar\u0131 emosional c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n sa\u011flam b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259r\u0259 \u00e7evirm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yard\u0131m\u00e7\u0131 oldu\u011funa \u0259saslansaq, o zaman vur\u011fulamal\u0131y\u0131q ki, haz\u0131rk\u0131 m\u0259d\u0259ni \u201cd\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259rimiz\u201d bu istiqam\u0259td\u0259 q\u0131zlar\u0131 d\u0259h\u015f\u0259tli d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 u\u011fursuzlu\u011fa apar\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Bu, adekvat “\u0259ksolunma” deyil, \u0259ksin\u0259, m\u0259d\u0259ni \u201cideal\u0131n\u201d n\u0259 oldu\u011funu onlara geri \u0259ks etdirm\u0259dir.<\/p>\n

Bu, h\u0259m\u00e7inin narsist valideyinl\u0259rin \u00f6z u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131 nec\u0259 \u201cyaralad\u0131qlar\u0131na\u201d ayd\u0131n n\u00fcmun\u0259dir. Tutaq ki, u\u015faqda fitri musiqi bacar\u0131\u011f\u0131 var, ancaq valideyni bunu q\u0259bul etmir, ona riyazi bacar\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 art\u0131rmas\u0131n\u0131n laz\u0131m oldu\u011funu deyir v\u0259 buna m\u0259cbur edir.<\/p>\n

U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n f\u0259rdi kimliyi tan\u0131nm\u0131r, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 m\u0259xsus istedadlar\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u00fcr v\u0259 q\u0259bul edilmir. Bunun \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259 valideyinl\u0259ri u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n etm\u0259k ist\u0259m\u0259diyi ba\u015fqa bir \u015feyi etm\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ona t\u0259zyiq g\u00f6st\u0259rirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Bu t\u0259sir h\u0259tta ikiqat t\u0259hqir kimi d\u0259 m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259 oluna bil\u0259r. Bir q\u0131z u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 \u0259slind\u0259 \u201co kimdir\u201d kimi g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u00fcr, ona \u0259slind\u0259 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 t\u0259rzd\u0259 olmas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn t\u0259zyiq edilir.<\/p>\n

Biz bu c\u0259miyy\u0259ti q\u0259ddar g\u00fczg\u00fc d\u0259 adland\u0131ra bil\u0259rik. Bel\u0259 bir g\u00fczg\u00fc \u201c\u00d6z\u201d hissini inki\u015faf etdirm\u0259y\u0259 mane olan da\u011f\u0131d\u0131c\u0131 al\u0259tdir.<\/p>\n

Sehrli na\u011f\u0131la – Krali\u00e7aya v\u0259 g\u00fczg\u00fcy\u0259 geri d\u00f6n\u0259k; \u0259g\u0259r o, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00fczg\u00fcd\u0259 g\u00f6rm\u00fcrd\u00fcs\u0259, b\u0259s kiminl\u0259 dan\u0131\u015f\u0131rd\u0131? Kimd\u0259n davaml\u0131 olaraq \u00f6z g\u00f6z\u0259lliyinin t\u0259sdiqini e\u015fitm\u0259k ist\u0259yirdi?<\/p>\n

Yad\u0131m\u0131za salaq, biz art\u0131q demi\u015fdik ki, g\u00f6zl\u0259rimizi g\u00fczg\u00fcy\u0259 zill\u0259dikd\u0259 \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck.<\/p>\n

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Krali\u00e7a g\u00fczg\u00fcd\u0259 \u00f6z animusunu g\u00f6r\u00fcrd\u00fc – qad\u0131nlar\u0131n x\u0259yal v\u0259 fantaziyalar\u0131nda \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131n\u0131n \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259\u015fdirilmi\u015f t\u0259c\u0259ss\u00fcm\u00fc.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

1882-ci ild\u0259n,\u00a0Valter Kreyn<\/strong>in s\u00f6z\u00fcged\u0259n na\u011f\u0131l\u0131n q\u0259hr\u0259manlar\u0131n\u0131n – Krali\u00e7an\u0131n v\u0259 g\u00fczg\u00fcn\u00fcn ill\u00fcstrasiyalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u0259kdiyi tarixd\u0259n d\u00f6vr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r, buraya 1909-cu ild\u0259\u00a0Artur Rakham<\/strong>\u0131n v\u0259 1932-ci ild\u0259Valt Disney<\/strong>in ill\u00fcstrasiyalar\u0131n\u0131 da \u0259lav\u0259 ets\u0259k, na\u011f\u0131la \u0259saslanan, \u0259ld\u0259 olan t\u0259xmin\u0259n b\u00fct\u00fcn t\u0259svirl\u0259rd\u0259 eyni m\u0259qam\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck: g\u00fczg\u00fcd\u0259ki \u00fcz ki\u015fi cinsini xat\u0131rlad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Yunq psixologiyas\u0131 n\u00f6qteyi-n\u0259z\u0259rind\u0259n yana\u015fsaq, Krali\u00e7a g\u00fczg\u00fcd\u0259 \u00f6z animusunu g\u00f6r\u00fcrd\u00fc – qad\u0131nlar\u0131n x\u0259yal v\u0259 fantaziyalar\u0131nda \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131n\u0131n \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259\u015fdirilmi\u015f t\u0259c\u0259ss\u00fcm\u00fc.<\/p>\n

Krali\u00e7a bu ki\u015fi \u201c \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tind\u0259n\u201d g\u00f6z\u0259l olub olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 davaml\u0131\u00a0 soru\u015furdu.<\/p>\n

Animusun t\u0259nqidi v\u0259 m\u00fchakim\u0259edici funksiya g\u00f6st\u0259rdiyini n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 alsaq, onun qad\u0131n \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 t\u0259sir\u0259 malik oldu\u011funu v\u0259 qad\u0131n g\u00f6z\u0259l oldu\u011fu m\u00fcdd\u0259tc\u0259 onu qane etdiyini, daha sonra g\u00f6z\u0259llik soldu\u011fu zaman ona neqativ t\u0259sir etdiyini dey\u0259 bil\u0259rik.<\/p>\n

Bu, birba\u015fa z\u0259d\u0259l\u0259nmi\u015f \u201c\u00d6z\u201d hissin\u0259 sahib qad\u0131nlarda g\u00f6rd\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fcz hald\u0131r, daha d\u0259qiq des\u0259k, narsist problemi olan qad\u0131nlarda.<\/p>\n

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Qad\u0131nlar \u00f6zl\u0259rini \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 s\u00fcbut etm\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259hkum olurlar, davaml\u0131 t\u0259nqid onlarda he\u00e7 vaxt kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r yax\u015f\u0131 olmad\u0131qlar\u0131 q\u0259na\u0259tini formala\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r. \u015e\u00fcuralt\u0131 neqativ animus he\u00e7 vaxt qane olmur.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

Onlar tez-tez daxili ki\u015fi s\u0259sl\u0259rini dinl\u0259yirl\u0259r, h\u0259yat f\u0259aliyy\u0259tl\u0259rini ona uy\u011fun qururlar, \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 k\u0259nardan \u201cki\u015fi g\u00f6z\u00fc\u201d il\u0259 bax\u0131rlar; bu b\u0259z\u0259n \u201cq\u0259ddar tap\u015f\u0131r\u0131q ver\u0259n sahib\u201d rolunda olur.<\/p>\n

Qad\u0131nlar \u00f6zl\u0259rini \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 s\u00fcbut etm\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259hkum olurlar, davaml\u0131 t\u0259nqid onlarda he\u00e7 vaxt kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r yax\u015f\u0131 olmad\u0131qlar\u0131 q\u0259na\u0259tini formala\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u015e\u00fcuralt\u0131 neqativ\u00a0animus<\/em>\u00a0he\u00e7 vaxt qane olmur.<\/p>\n

Bel\u0259likl\u0259, biz Krali\u00e7a v\u0259 sehrli g\u00fczg\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fcn qad\u0131nlar\u0131n m\u00fch\u00fcm psixoloji probleml\u0259rinin portretini \u00e7\u0131zd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck.<\/p>\n

Bunun m\u0259ntiqi n\u0259tic\u0259si kimi na\u011f\u0131l biz\u0259 narsizm problemind\u0259n v\u0259 neqativ animus funksiyas\u0131ndan qurtulma\u011f\u0131 da g\u00f6st\u0259rir. Lakin bu art\u0131q tam ba\u015fqa m\u00f6vzudur. Sad\u0259c\u0259 sonda K. Yunqun m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259l\u0259rini \u0259sas g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u0259r\u0259k, bel\u0259 bir sual qoyuram:<\/p>\n

A\u011fb\u0259niz bu \u201c\u015f\u0259faverici\u201d prosesd\u0259 hans\u0131 t\u0259sir\u0259 malikdir? Narsistik poz\u011funlu\u011fu olan qad\u0131na n\u0259 t\u0259klif ed\u0259 bilir? Onun ov\u00e7u il\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti, daha do\u011frusu ov\u00e7unun A\u011fb\u0259nizi \u00f6ld\u00fcrm\u0259m\u0259si i\u00e7imizd\u0259 m\u00fcsb\u0259t, sa\u011flam t\u0259siri olan animusu oyatmaq c\u0259hdi deyilmi?<\/p>\n

Biz h\u0259l\u0259 na\u011f\u0131ldak\u0131 \u201cki\u015fi\u201d\u015f\u0259killi c\u0131rtdanlar\u0131 da t\u0259hlil etm\u0259liyik ki, daha \u0259trafl\u0131 m\u0259ntiqi sonlu\u011fa g\u0259l\u0259k, lakin dediyim kimi, bu art\u0131q tam ba\u015fqa m\u00f6vzudur.<\/p>\n

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F\u0259ls\u0259f\u0259 doktoru\u00a0Nancy van den Berg-Cook “Qar b\u0259yaz\u0131nda sehrli g\u00fczg\u00fc” adl\u0131 m\u0259qal\u0259sind\u0259n (orijinal\u0131:\u00a0\u201cThe Magic Mirror in Snow White\u201d) T\u0259rc\u00fcm\u0259: Ayg\u00fcn Qurbanl\u0131 \u201cA\u011fb\u0259niz v\u0259 yeddi c\u0131rtdan\u201d na\u011f\u0131l\u0131ndak\u0131 sehrli g\u00fczg\u00fc n\u0259yin simvoludur? M\u00f6vzuya \u201cA\u011fb\u0259niz v\u0259 yeddi c\u0131rtdan\u201d sehrli na\u011f\u0131l\u0131, oradak\u0131 pis \u00f6gey ana v\u0259 onun sehrli g\u00fczg\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fcn b\u0259dii sur\u0259ti il\u0259 ba\u015flamaq ist\u0259yir\u0259m. Sehrli na\u011f\u0131l\u0131n b\u00fct\u00f6v \u015f\u0259rhini verm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259y\u0259m, oradak\u0131 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[18],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9600"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=9600"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9600\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9602,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9600\/revisions\/9602"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=9600"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=9600"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kultur.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=9600"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}